Sometimes it seems like we’re always waiting for something in life, and when that something happens, your life will finally start.
When I’m done with my first year of teaching, my life will be more complete. When I’ve gotten my masters in education, I’ll be a true teacher then. When I get married and have kids, then I’ll really be an adult. Far too often, I find myself saying, “When…” and filling in the blank.
This has been on my mind a lot lately, so I thought I would take the time to share it with all of you. My personality is “go, go, go” – alllllll the time. When I have an idea, I roll with it right away. There’s no “let me think about that and get back to you” in my vocabulary. There should be, but 95% of the time, there’s not.
When I thought I needed to change the atmosphere in my one guided reading group this year because of challenging behaviors, I was looking up behavior plans on Pinterest and talking to six different teachers at work to get advice. Why? Because I knew I wanted to change the structure of the group, and I thought I literally had to change it the next day. When I tell a friend I will get together with them, I have a strong urge to pull out my planner to block a time and place right then and there. When I think I should start taking more group exercise classes at the gym, I will literally pull out the gym schedule and highlight 14 classes in one week I plan on going to. Really? Like I’m planning on going from 2 classes a week to 14, in addition to maintaining my current running routine.
My personality is so “go, go, go” all the time that far too often I don’t take time to stop and realize that life is happening right now. Life isn’t going to start when that guy replies to my text. Life isn’t going to become more fulfilling when I get my own apartment. Life isn’t going to change drastically if I lose five pounds.
There’s no point that you reach in life that dictates that your life has begun; there’s no goal that you attain that shows your life is complete or worthwhile. Far too often lately I have lost sight of this.
Instead, what happens right now, on a day to day basis, is what will make your life fulfilling. All the small moments come together to make something bigger. Your life is happening as you push yourself to run that extra mile. Your life is happening as you reach a breakthrough with that difficult student. Your life is happening over that cup of coffee with your friend, as you soak up the sun’s rays on a summer day, as you exchange a smile with someone as you stop to let them cross the street. Life is happening right here, right now. Life isn’t about the destination, but the journey that gets us there.
Don’t miss out on the good things happening in your life now just because you’re waiting on the next thing to happen. After all, you can’t get to the next chapter in your life unless you turn the pages in this one first.